What your Groom is REALLY thinking....

Whilst flicking through one of my favourite glossy magazines last week, I came across a feature called ‘What he’s really thinking on your wedding day’, and it got me thinking.......what ARE grooms really thinking on their wedding day??


Stereotypically, the groom doesn’t appear to have to do much with regard to the wedding except turn up on time and say ‘I do’ - well, he might have to arrange the honeymoon maybe, or handle one aspect of the wedding his fiancee has delegated, while she usually agonises over every minor detail. Surely stress free, no?


The reason for this, it could be argued, is that ‘the wedding’ has been designed for women. The ring, the dress, the flowers, the cake.....it’s a girl thing really. Yet, throughout this girl-orientated day, there are a number of scary scary scary elements that grooms have to face. The author of the feature I read appropriately named these as ‘The Four Tests of a Bridegroom’. These are listed below, with some possible thoughts from a mans' perspective:


Test One: The Vows

Managing to say them, not shout or squeak them. In fact just managing to speak at all. Managing to not mess up the words, managing to say something sincere & heartfelt. The kiss - peck, long, which direction to put his head? Managing to contain his emotions so he doesn't cry like a girl....


Test Two: The Speech

As above, except this time he has the eyes of all the guests on him. And potentially still beaming from embarrassment from the Best Man’s speech....


Test Three: Leading the Dance

Even for the most confident John Travolta’s this is intimidating - all eyes on him again. Not stepping on her toes/dress. Managing to deviate from the safe ‘side to side sway’ to something a bit more impressive - without looking like a fool....


Test Four: ‘Consummating’ the marriage.....too tired? Too much alcohol?....


So Brides, have some sympathy for your Bridegrooms....yes they (frustratingly) might not have as much work to do in the lead up to the wedding as you do, but they do have an awful lot to live up to on the day. And remember, they are marrying you because they want to spend the rest of their life with you......and all this ‘the wedding’ scary stuff? That’s all because they love you and want you to have ‘your’ perfect day.....


Lucy

Wedding Planning for the ultimate Wedding in Scotland

Why get married in Scotland?

Gossip columns are currently abuzz with rumours that Take That’s Mark Owen is going to marry in Cawdor Castle in the Highlands of Scotland. If he does, he wont be the first celebrity......Madonna, Stella McCartney, J.K. Rowling, Ashley Judd, even Phillip Schofield, all chose to hold their nuptials in Scotland. And it’s not just celebrities - couples from all over the world are drawn here like these newlyweds at Edinburgh Castle - but what is the appeal of getting married in Scotland?


First and foremost, Scotland is a beautiful and historic place. It has long been known as a romantic venue for a wedding - imagine exchanging your vows in an ancient chapel, a candle-lit vault, a castle by a Loch or a beautiful ruin. With its beautiful countryside and abundance of stunning castles, Scotland offers one of the most romantic settings in the world. It’s weather, yes, can be dubious, but it can be beautiful, and our four distinctive seasons make for beautiful scenery - Flowers starting to bud in the Spring, Summer flowers blooming, leaves turning every shade of yellow, red, orange and brown in Autumn, and a snowy and frosty magical wonderland in the Winter.


The village of Gretna Green in the south of Scotland is has a long historic connection with weddings. It is one of the most popular places in the world to get married, with more than 5000 couples per year doing so. Gretna's famous runaway marriages began in 1753 when an Act of Parliament was passed in England which stated that if both parties to a marriage were not at least 21 years old, then consent to the marriage had to be given by the parents. This Act did not apply in Scotland, where it was possible for boys to get married at 14 and girls at 12 years old with or without parental consent. Therefore couples headed just over the border from England into Scotland so they could get married legally.


Our deep rooted wedding traditions are something that proves popular with couples. From the moving melody of the bagpipes, to our traditional Scottish dress of the Kilt, to our renowned reputation of throwing a great party, couples like to embrace Scottish customs. Couples often opt for a traditional Ceilidh band so they can dance all night to customary dances such as the Gay Gordons and The Dashing White Sergeant.
Getting married?

Why not contact Premier Wedding Planners Scotland to see if we can help you plan your dream day?


Lucy

Choosing 'The Rings....'

The exchange of rings at a wedding is one, if not the most meaningful parts to the whole day, and has long been a tradition of marriage. Although not legally important, wearing a wedding ring is one way of showing your love and commitment to your partner (it’s also a nice subtle way to let people know you are off the market!) The shape ring itself is of course a circle, and circles are said to symbolise eternity, therefore wedding rings are said to represent an everlasting circle of love. They are said to be worn on the third finger of the left hand as the vein of this finger travels directly to the heart (cute!). Originally they were made from grass, plants and hair!! Fortunately a wider range of ring materials are now available....

Like the engagement ring, you have to love it, as you’ll be wearing it everyday for the rest of your life. As discussed in the previous blog, make sure your engagement and wedding rings complement one another – having them in the same metal is a good way to help them correlate. Of late, white gold and platinum are most popular, but the choices are endless!

Many men choose a wedding ring made from platinum due to its strength and durability. However if this is an important factor for your Groom he should also consider titanium, as this metal is not only strong but also holds less weight than other metals, making the ring lighter and easy to wear.

Many couples choose ‘plain’ bands, but rings with diamonds and/or gemstones are also widely available. You don’t have to go blingtastic like Peter Andre & Katie Price did for their rings, a few subtle stones can be beautiful

Or why not consider a personal touch by having your rings engraved? This could be on the outside or inside of the band. Your partner’s name or initials, date of marriage, small quote? Or what about having your partner’s fingerprint engraved into your ring? Andrew English specialises in ring engraving

If none of that takes your fancy then why not consider something bespoke? Jewellery designers can make a unique design for you & your partner. Sometimes this can be more expensive, but not always - visit a few jewellers who offer this service for a consultation - you might be pleasantly surprised.

Lucy

Oh, and another thing – remember to adjust your home contents insurance to cover your new rings!